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A Ukrainian Girl Finds Her Fairy Tale

Once upon a time, I lived in Kakhovka, a beautiful cozy green town in the south of Ukraine. One of those small, once-upon-a-time places where everyone on the street knows exactly who you are – who is your mother, who…

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Playing the Cards You’re Dealt

My full name is Hilda Denize Pinto Samo Gudo Johannsen. Yes, you might want to think twice before asking me to spell it all out! I’m Brazilian, my husband is German, and we have lived in Mozambique, Moldova, Indonesia, and now India. 

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Empty Nest at Home, Full Lives Ahead

For anyone who has spent decades as an expat trailing spouse, seeing your children leave the nest and your husband become a stay-at-home retiree is a major change of life, dynamics and pace.

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Bending, Not Breaking, in Malaysia

My new novel tells the story of the interweaving lives of a British expat woman and her Filipina maid in Malaysia. It’s ultimately a tale of love, belonging and discovery — loosely based on my own experiences as a trailing spouse.

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From Flailing Spouse to Badass Abroad

In 2008, I had an ideal life. I was working part-time for a chemical company as a supply chain implementation lead, and I was a part-time stay at home mom in the suburbs of Richmond, Virginia. It felt like I…

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Cross-Country Culture Shocks and Confidence Gains

For my ninth move as a Navy wife, I traded in Seattle’s jeans-and-tattoos vibe for the power suits, prestige, and politics of Washington, D.C.

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My Long and Winding Road

My unpredictable life’s journey, complete with stumbles and rocky patches, has held me in good stead as an expat spouse.

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Stranger in Many Strange Lands

My journey as a trailing spouse began with my wife’s job offer with the U.N. High Commissioner for Refugees in Ukraine. Six years later, we were fleeing for our lives.

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Unexpected Yet Inevitable: My Colorful Life in India

From Paris to London to Delhi, “Mademoiselle Prune” offers a fashion-forward spin on trailing spouse life.

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Turning Trailing Life into Thrilling Material

The inspiration for Chris Pavone’s 2012 bestselling debut novel, The Expats, came from following his wife’s job to Luxembourg. Four novels later, he shares his own story with our readers.

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    Silencing the Whisper: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome as a Trailing Spouse

    by Rona Jobe September 2, 2025
    by Rona Jobe

    A foreign service family lifestyle comes with many challenges — isolation, invisibility, identity shifts — that can become invitations.

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    A Ukrainian Girl Finds Her Fairy Tale

    by Nadiya Burkovska July 17, 2025
    by Nadiya Burkovska

    Once upon a time, I lived in Kakhovka, a beautiful cozy green town in the south of Ukraine. One of those small, once-upon-a-time places where everyone on the street knows exactly who you are – who is your mother, who…

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    Playing the Cards You’re Dealt

    by Hilda Johannsen April 8, 2025
    by Hilda Johannsen

    My full name is Hilda Denize Pinto Samo Gudo Johannsen. Yes, you might want to think twice before asking me to spell it all out! I’m Brazilian, my husband is German, and we have lived in Mozambique, Moldova, Indonesia, and now India. 

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    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 5)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale July 9, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    After accompanying her husband across two continents, Michelle found herself taking an early retirement in Goa — her home. Or was it?

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    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 4)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale June 25, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    Michelle spent 18 years as a trailing spouse in three countries before moving back to India — where her adjustment adventures continued, after all.

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    Summer Reading for Towing & Trailing Spouses

    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte June 16, 2024
    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte

    If summertime happens to be when you feel a yearning for some new reading material, here’s a trio of options for trailing and towing spouses alike.

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    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 3)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale May 28, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    After five years in Bangkok, including the last two as a split household while my husband worked in London and our son finished high school, our family reunited in (cold, wet, gray) London.

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    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 2)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale May 14, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    After a decade of expat life in Dubai, my husband was transferred to Thailand. Our family welcomed the opportunity to learn about a new culture — both modern and with a long, rich history. 

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    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 1)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale April 30, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    Before writing ‘Becoming Goan,’ I became an expat, following my husband from India to Dubai on the first of several corporate relocations over 18 years.

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    Empty Nest at Home, Full Lives Ahead

    by Florence Reisch March 31, 2024
    by Florence Reisch

    For anyone who has spent decades as an expat trailing spouse, seeing your children leave the nest and your husband become a stay-at-home retiree is a major change of life, dynamics and pace.

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Fourth-generation trailing spouse whose partner's career has prompted three cross-country moves and one across-the-world move... so far!

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