My husband and I recently celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary — with multiple parties in multiple places. It seemed fitting, given that for the first half of our marriage, we never lived in one apartment or house for more than two years! Through periods of relocating together or living separately, across continents and states, trading off on who played the role of the trailing spouse, we’ve had to lean on significant parental support, maintain two households, and spend a sizable sum on commuting and phone bills.
We’ve explored many parts of the world together and made wonderful friends along the way, but this lifestyle caused a lot of wear and tear — including on our firstborn, who had to deal with the weekday absence of one parent for his entire third grade school year.